Is there a lack of trust behind your fear?
I am often reminded of my previous lack of trust that disguised itself as fear. Or is it fear disguised as a lack of trust…
I was once a very fearful person and always on the lookout for security, for a reason I explain in Successful Business Minds, but in addition to this, I had an issue with trusting others – I had been let down in the past so I wasn’t going to let that happen again. Yet it was holding me and my business back.
Over the years, when first meeting my mentors, there was a part of me that could see these people had something valuable to offer me yet I feared them letting me down, and me wasting my money. One of these teachers was my book mentor – Karen Williams
Working with her would involve me spending money which was something I valued as security and was reluctant to gamble it on her.
I wanted to write a book, many books in fact, and I needed help. She resonated with me, but I had doubts and as she lived 450 miles I had no easy way of checking up on her. Thankfully, I noticed a friend of mine was already friends with Karen on social media so I took her for coffee one morning and quizzed her. My doubts were soon put to rest after my friend said some reassuring things, thank goodness, otherwise, I wouldn’t have published 12 Steps to Improve Your Cashflow or Successful Business Minds. I shudder at the thought of that…
As a result of me finally trusting, I made my dreams come true and it was even more amazing than I imagined!
Of course, it took me a long time to trust, and occasionally I still get burnt, but only when I rush into a decision before consulting my 4-minds (this is a familiar concept I explain in detail in Successful Business Minds).
I know to do this when I find myself asking – what if you spend all that money and it is wasted? So I do my research and then some calculations (see How do you calculate if an investment is worthwhile? for some direction) which then helps me put my doubts to rest.
