Do you resist change?

I often find myself resisting change if there is too much or it is unbalanced in my business and personal life.

I used to think that I was ok with having a balance between routine in my personal life and change in my business or vice versa. However, this can cause me to attempt to make changes in my business in order to resist change in my personal life, or attempt to make changes in my personal life in order to resist change in my business.

I discovered this after attempting to control quite a few changes in my business in an effort to avoid change at home. My gran is unwell and she has been for a few months now. I remember my gran as a strong, determined and independent lady, always laughing and joking. However, lately she has been quite weak, very dependent on others and not quite as happy as she used to be. I was incredibly close to my gran whilst growing up and this has really knocked me emotionally. Seeing my mum, who is also a very strong and independent woman (can you see where I get it from!) disheartened too, is upsetting as well.

After a visit to the hospital at the weekend and a conversation with Sheryl Andrews, from Step by Step Listening, this morning, I realised that I was holding on too tightly to who my gran used to be, and not accepting who she is now.

As I was out walking at lunchtime (where I do most of my reflections), I realised that we often hold on to how things where or how people used to be. We like it that way and we want them to stay that way. I think this is a very common trait of human nature however, we forget that we are a part of nature itself and we do change and so does everyone around us. We even welcome change in most cases such as turning eighteen years of age, leaving home, and/or, if you are a parent, seeing your child walk for the first time.

But if we hold on to how things used to be, and how someone was, we are not allowing for the natural cycle of change to occur. I see it often when I go into a business to assist them with their financial performance to be met with lots of ‘that is how it is always done’ when I enquire into why something is happening or not happening.

If change is not happening in your business I encourage you to reflect and ask if you are resisting change elsewhere. Or perhaps you are seeking routine in your business, in which case I encourage you to ask if you are resisting routine elsewhere.

I believe that what is happening in our business is reflected in our personal life. Despite writing about this in depth in my book Successful Business Minds, my current challenge was just too close for comfort for me to see, as it usually can be sometimes! That is why a coach, or a friend, can help us to gain clarity on a challenge.

Sheryl, who also agrees that our personal life and work life are intertwined, helped me to find that clarity on my current challenge that was just too close for me to see. I am highly skilled and mindful when it comes to finances and money, but I often have to reach out for help from others for other areas of my life. I encourage you to do the same. Do what you do well, but reach out to others in the areas that they excel in, so you can be even better!

© Helen Monaghan

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